faerysyzed

Where are the MRAs when men actually need help?

fandomsandfeminism:

Where are the MRAs when black men are gunned down illegally by police?

Where are the MRAs when LGBTQIAP+ men are fired from their jobs?

Where are the MRAs when disabled men are legally allowed to be paid under minimum wage?

Where are the MRAs when undocumented immigrant men are exploited and villainized?

Where are the MRAs when Trans men are harassed, attacked, and misgendered? 

Why do we never see Men’s Rights Activists actually acting for men’s rights?

I mean I 100% agree that MRAs should be fighting for this, but who’s to say they aren’t?

Have you ever talked with MRAs about these topics? Do you actually follow MRA blogs on here and see how these people react to injustice against oppressed men?

I mean anti-social-justice MRAs disgust me as much as the next person but how can you assume all or most are like that?

Feminism has historically had the same problem of over-focusing on privileged women’s problems, and fortunately that has started to improve.

MRAs may have that same privileged focus and should be criticized but that doesn’t mean their movement flat out shouldn’t exist…which is what this post is insinuating.

faerysyzed

Where are the MRAs when men actually need help?

fandomsandfeminism:

Where are the MRAs when black men are gunned down illegally by police?

Where are the MRAs when LGBTQIAP+ men are fired from their jobs?

Where are the MRAs when disabled men are legally allowed to be paid under minimum wage?

Where are the MRAs when undocumented immigrant men are exploited and villainized?

Where are the MRAs when Trans men are harassed, attacked, and misgendered? 

Why do we never see Men’s Rights Activists actually acting for men’s rights?

I mean I 100% agree that MRAs should be fighting for this, but who’s to say they aren’t?

Have you ever talked with MRAs about these topics? Do you actually follow MRA blogs on here and see how these people react to injustice against oppressed men?

I mean anti-social-justice MRAs disgust me as much as the next person but how can you assume all or most are like that?

Feminism has historically had the same problem of over-focusing on privileged women’s problems, and fortunately that has started to improve.

MRAs may have that same privileged focus and should be criticized but that doesn’t mean their movement flat out shouldn’t exist…which is what this post is insinuating.

fabiolaorsi
I am definitely a feminist. I’m f**king disgusted by the way women are still treated. It’s 1993 and some people still think we’re in the 1950’s. We need to make more progress. There needs to be more female musicians, more female artists, more female writers. Everything is dominated by f**king males, and I’m sick of it!

Kurt Cobain (via ashleeejade)

Kinda sad this still applies in 2014

(via why-cant-i-be-hot-and-witty)

mimspiration

Nowadays the princesses all know kung fu, and yet they’re still the same princesses. They’re still love interests, still the one girl in a team of five boys, and they’re all kind of the same. They march on screen, punch someone to show how they don’t take no shit, throw around a couple of one-liners or forcibly kiss someone because getting consent is for wimps, and then with ladylike discretion they back out of the narrative’s way.

On the posters they’re posed way in the back of the shot behind the men, in the trailers they may pout or smile or kick things, but they remain silent. Their strength lets them, briefly, dominate bystanders but never dominate the plot. It’s an anodyne, a sop, a Trojan Horse - it’s there to distract and confuse you, so you forget to ask for more.

Sophia McDougall  (via feministquotes)

tbh is there a word for a feminist who is fed up with a lot of tumblr feminism because that would be me. 

and no, not an “equalist” or a “humanist”, because that implies that men and women are currently in equal positions of prestige and power. We’re not. I’m a woman, and I support other women as a top priority. I’m not anti-mra. men have their own problems and they have the right to do their own activism thing, but I don’t actively support it. I understand that America is a patriarchal society and therefore women here will always have to fight for power, representation and respect until we are equally represented in our government and media. until women are perceived with equal cultural value as their male counterparts. We’re not there yet. Therefore, I’m a feminist. Although ideally, feminism is gender-positive, which opens up more freedoms and flexible gender roles for all genders. And I love that. 

I’m just done with “crushing men”, ~male tears~ like wtf I can’t relate to any of this. those aren’t even the main problems with tumblr feminism. There’s a lack of critical thinking, I’m sorry to say. A lot of assumptions about men without personal reflection. Defensive flash responses to criticism. A lot of contradictions and logical fallacies.

I’m also really fed up with the anti-feminism tumblr culture because it feeds on shitty feminism floating around online. As if popular shitty opinions could represent all feminists. And more importantly, as if an ignorant post could discredit the entire need to support women in an organised movement. I’m great with criticisms against feminism. I’m great with calling out hateful women. I get angry when people use these criticisms to say “SEE , THIS IS WHY WE DON’T NEED FEMINISM. LIKE AT ALL”

yes some popular feminists are bad people, but at the end of the day, we still need to fight against the modern, pervasive power imbalances between genders. and yea, supporting women with a pro-women movement from the female perspective is a totally valid way to do that.

baelor

burdenedwithgloriousbooty:

oneshortdamnfuse:

princess-siddnttety:

hazeldash:

birdhead:

pyrositshere:

internetgoose:

I’m gonna depress the hell out of all of you. ready? ok go

so, that “stop devaluing feminized work post”

nice idea and all

but the thing is, as soon as a decent number of women enter any field, it becomes “feminized,” and it becomes devalued.

as women enter a field in greater number, people become less willing to pay for it, the respect for it drops, and it’s seen as less of a big deal. it’s not about the job- it’s about the number of women in the job.

observe what happened with biology. it’s STEM, sure, but anyone in a male-dominated science will sneer at the idea of it being ‘for real,’ nevermind that everyone sure took it more seriously when it was a male dominated field. so has happened with scores of other areas; nursing comes to mind

so the thing is, it’s not the work or the job that has to be uplifted and seen as more respectable. it will never work out, until people start seeing women as respectable

but there’s a doozy and who the fuck knows if it’s ever happening in my life time

"observe what happened with biology. it’s STEM, sure, but anyone in a male-dominated science will sneer at the idea of it being ‘for real,’ nevermind that everyone sure took it more seriously when it was a male dominated field."

Personal anecdote time!  I’m in a biology graduate program.  An acquaintance wanted to introduce some guy to me because his son was thinking about becoming an undergrad science major.  When he found out I was in the biology department, he grinned and said, “Well, I guess that’s kind of related to science.”

I gave him what I hope was an icy look and said, “Isn’t it strange how men outside the field started saying that right around the time biology majors shifted from mostly male to mostly female?”

The guy got this look on his face like he was about to play the “just a joke” card, and then an older woman who had been standing nearby, talking to someone else, turned to me and said, “The same thing happened with real estate.”  She went on to explain that, over the course of the career, the male-to-female ratio among real estate agents had dropped, and the pay and “prestige factor” of that job dropped along with it.

This is also famous for happening to teaching. Keep an eye on medicine over the next fifteen years and watch as it becomes less prestigious and less well-paid.

It also happened to secretarial/administrative work - in the 19th century, clerical work was utterly respectable and seen as requiring quite a lot of talent and skill (which it still does!) but then along came the typewriter and women entering the field and HEY PRESTO “she’s just some secretary”

at my university, chemical engineering, or chem eng, was often referred to as “fem eng” why? because it’s an exact 50/50 ratio of women to men, which clearly makes it too feminine. in the 70s/80s chemical engineering was one of the most important and hardest engineering fields (plastics! pulp and paper! OIL) but now that there are more women in the field it’s considered an easier field, in comparison to other fields.

for example, i once heard a girl in mech eng list some of the engineering fields in the order she thought was hardest to easiest. you know what it was? electrical, mechanical, chemical. it’s absolutely no surprise that this list is also a handy ordering of fewest women in the field to most women in the field.

AND, another point! this happens the other way around too. computer science related fields used to be dominated by women, which made it not very important (switchboard operators? yup). once men started taking over the field, well that’s when the big money and prestige came in.

The field of anthropology, which is becoming female dominated from what I can see, has been determined to be useless by some. (I’ve even had girls in STEM fields tell me I don’t study a “real science” so how’s about that internalized misogyny for ya) When I was majoring in anthropology, Gov. Rick Scott determined that Florida didn’t need any more anthropologists and wanted to reduce funding to programs and increase funding to STEM programs. While not considered a STEM field, anthropologists have contributed to the research behind STEM programs and provide a wide variety of services to Florida alone. A team of anthropologists created a powerpoint “This is Anthropology" to talk about dozens of programs and services they contribute to in Florida which include healthcare programs, education programs, disaster relief, forensic investigation, environmental programs and conservation efforts, research for fortune 500 businesses, agricultural programs, immigration programs, programs and services for the elderly, etc. I’m also in the field of education, and we’re constantly made out to be overpaid (we’re not) and made out to be incapable of doing our jobs without very strict guidance. 

It’s all very insulting, really. No matter what we study. No matter what we do to earn a living. It will never be good enough.

It isn’t limited to the US either. In my father’s home country, medicine is mainly pursued by women, and thus, being a doctor isn’t seen as prestigious or respectable. 

asriels

On being asked if she is a feminist (in light of stars such as Shailene Woodley and Kelly Clarkson rejecting the label): “I don’t think they really understood what feminism is. It’s a right. Feminism, to me, is standing up for everything that someone else has already done for you. My mom has overcome so much in her life. She makes me want to stand up for myself. Stand up to the studio heads who try to tell me that I can’t have blonde hair; they want brown hair. Or I need bigger boobs, or I need to work out. Or I’m too skinny, so, like, ‘Eat a cheeseburger.’ I stand up for myself every day of my life. I grew up in a family of four boys. I’m, like, a born feminist. I’ve been a feminist since I was four years old.” - Chloe Grace Moretz

On being asked if she is a feminist (in light of stars such as Shailene Woodley and Kelly Clarkson rejecting the label): “I don’t think they really understood what feminism is. It’s a right. Feminism, to me, is standing up for everything that someone else has already done for you. My mom has overcome so much in her life. She makes me want to stand up for myself. Stand up to the studio heads who try to tell me that I can’t have blonde hair; they want brown hair. Or I need bigger boobs, or I need to work out. Or I’m too skinny, so, like, ‘Eat a cheeseburger.’ I stand up for myself every day of my life. I grew up in a family of four boys. I’m, like, a born feminist. I’ve been a feminist since I was four years old.” - Chloe Grace Moretz

I’m gonna ask my fellow feminists on here to stop acting like it’s healthy or remotely liberating to expect wealth or financial stability out of a guy.

I can’t for the life of me understand how wealth can be attractive.

Do real life girls out there actually care about money???? Does that turn you on?? Do you feel all warm and fuzzy when he buys you a fancy dinner???? Make your own goddamn cash.

mastur-beta
swedens:

I love this image so much.
I’ve seen some women who are offended by this and say it’s ridiculous that her cleavage is showing and things of that sort.
Personally, I think it’s great.
Why should we have an image of a women with her hair tied up and flexing her muscles like she’s a man? (not that that isn’t great too!) In a way it suggests that when our hair is down, our breasts are visible and we wear (GASP) lipstick, we’re somehow lesser than men? We can do it! We can be feminine and successful.
You see what I’m saying here, ladies?
You don’t have to lose your femininity. Being feminine is great. Being masculine is great. Strength is not limited to one way of being.

swedens:

I love this image so much.

I’ve seen some women who are offended by this and say it’s ridiculous that her cleavage is showing and things of that sort.

Personally, I think it’s great.

Why should we have an image of a women with her hair tied up and flexing her muscles like she’s a man? (not that that isn’t great too!) In a way it suggests that when our hair is down, our breasts are visible and we wear (GASP) lipstick, we’re somehow lesser than men? We can do it! We can be feminine and successful.

You see what I’m saying here, ladies?

You don’t have to lose your femininity. Being feminine is great. Being masculine is great. Strength is not limited to one way of being.

littlebifurious
heroinfriday:

If you feel threatened going outside after dark, then CONGRAGULATIONS! You’re just like everyone else, regardless of gender.
Men are the vicims of random street violence 70% of the time. Men are attacked more often than women are. This stereotype that men aren’t afraid to go out after dark and that all men know how to fight/defend themselves is stupid and insulting; it also encourages telling male victims of violence that they “should have manned up” and are at fault for not being able to defend themselves, since inherently—because they have penises—they should be able to defend themselves perfectly.
This isn’t a feminist utopia fantasy story. This is a HUMAN utopia story. No one is safe going out at night, and anyone can be a victim.
-Liv

heroinfriday:

If you feel threatened going outside after dark, then CONGRAGULATIONS! You’re just like everyone else, regardless of gender.

Men are the vicims of random street violence 70% of the time. Men are attacked more often than women are. This stereotype that men aren’t afraid to go out after dark and that all men know how to fight/defend themselves is stupid and insulting; it also encourages telling male victims of violence that they “should have manned up” and are at fault for not being able to defend themselves, since inherently—because they have penises—they should be able to defend themselves perfectly.

This isn’t a feminist utopia fantasy story. This is a HUMAN utopia story. No one is safe going out at night, and anyone can be a victim.

-Liv

bigpaw

noirescent:

Arcade Fire — Abraham’s Daughter.

Abraham took Isaac’s hand
And led him to the lonesome hill
While his daughter hid and watched,
She dare not breathe.
She was so still.
Just as an angel cried for the slaughter,
Abraham’s daughter raised her voice.
Then the angel asked her what her name was,
She said, “I have none.”
Then he asked, “How can this be?”
"My father never gave me one."
And when he saw her, raised for the slaughter,
Abraham’s daughter raised her bow.
How darest you child defy your Father?
You better let young Isaac go.

It’s like I’ve been waiting for the perfect poem my entire life and suddenly here it is